How to “Dad” – the kind of love that has repercussions


The last time I was with both of our children

Love is patient, love is kind, it isn’t jealous, it doesn’t brag, it isn’t arrogant, it isn’t rude, it doesn’t seek its own advantage, it isn’t irritable, it doesn’t keep a record of complaints, it isn’t happy with injustice, but it is happy with the truth. Love puts up with all things, trusts in all things, hopes for all things, endures all things. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Hey, good friends, family and readers; if you want to “dad” (it’s a verb, by the way) then do that. And by “that” I mean the First Corinthians Thirteen love stuff. You know, the patience, the kindness, the lack of jealousy, the humility, the politeness, the “putting others first”, the lack of irritability, the grace and mercy as an alternative to listing complaints, the commitment to justice, the honesty and the authenticity, the hope, the tenacity, the hanging in for the long-haul…

Talking of all that applied love, not a lot of people get to be 63 years old and still have both their mum and their dad around to celebrate – let alone living next door. It’s a rarity because between them my parents are almost 179, and that is a lot of living.

I’m not doing so bad myself, as this is my 38th Father’s day as a dad (and our children are only 34 and 36).

What makes this extra cool is that our son, Andrew, gets to be a dad for the first time this summer. If he wants to know how to be an amazing father then he can always talk with his grandpa David. Here’s a sampling of what my dad would likely say, just in case Andrew doesn’t make it to Wake Forest before August.

  • First, love your wife with passion, creativity, and intention.
  • Do everything from the perspective of love,
  • celebrate being a father with unabashed joy,
  • make peace your watchword,
  • practice patience, always,
  • let kindness define your life as a husband and a father,
  • value and pursue goodness,
  • invest yourself in and demonstrate faithfulness,
  • be a gentle man,
  • be famous for self-control.

Come to think of it I may have read that somewhere before! –  “The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23).

You can’t go wrong by following Jesus. It’s what my dad has done all of his life. That’s the kind of love that has repercussions, and it’s how I want my son to dad (that’s a verb, by the way).

Happy Dad’s day – DEREK (a.k.a. “son” a.k.a. “dad”)


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