Struggle is Temporary – But Love is Eternal

Tim Black leads the congregation in some opening thoughts...

There are so many directions I could go today!

  • Rebekah is on a plane, heading to see our 5-day-old grandson in Connecticut…
  • Last night over 400 people squished into our sanctuary for John Nugent’s memorial service…
  • This morning we all woke up to an amazingly beautiful fall day…

I guess I’ll start with the service. Because John’s death and the pain – and the grace – surrounding his passing has dominated this week. We all met at First Presbyterian Church of Brandon for a 7:00 service that was, at once, both sorrowful and deeply helpful.

Rebekah made the hugely important observation that – because we were created for eternity – every loss of life we experience feels, by definition, untimely and unnatural.

John, who served with distinction in the US Army, was honored with this flag, presented to his wife, Peggy...

Death seems so foundationally wrong to us because it interrupts the continuum of eternal life. Therefore we are stricken with grief even at the end of a life that we expect to come to a close… let alone one that was sudden, inexplicable, and so out of synch with the story of the man we knew and loved so dearly.

And I love the way Rebekah engaged the congregation (folk from our church, folk from other faith communities, and folk with no church affiliation whatsoever) with the crucial question of the evening:

“I don’t care what religious tradition you espouse – or reject,” Rebekah said (and I both compress and paraphrase, from memory). “But I’d bet each one of you a dollar that you have an instinct for eternity, and that – at this moment  – that instinct is as sharp as a razor’s edge. And that same instinct,” she said, “tells us that this world alone is not enough….”

reception in Mauldin Hall

John’s life eloquently illustrated the truth about the gospel. And John’s death told us the truth too – the truth about the pain that so often defines our experience in this broken world. The beauty of grace is that God loves us and that God heals our hurt. Struggle is temporary, but love is eternal.

The service, and the reception following in the newly expanded and renovated Mauldin Hall (this was the first event), was a beautiful expression of faith and a profound illustration of promise. I’ve said this before, and I say it as loudly as I can whenever I’m on the road, “The community of faith tells the truth about the gospel that is proclaimed there.” This community, at First Presbyterian Church of Brandon, Florida, declares – and lives – a gospel of love and joy and hope – and we live it out loud.

TPA this morning - SW taking off for Connecticut

Then, this morning, I took Rebekah to the airport. Because she has been aching to see David Henry, who is now five days old. The birth of David also tells the truth about the Gospel of Love. I can’t begin to express how transformational he has already been in terms of healing and grace and hope.

I recently heard someone say, sincerely, that they would never bring a child into a world such as this. But I say that this world needs children such as David Henry. This broken world needs more children and young people raised in the grace of Christlike love. This dark and fractured world needs the ministry of David, his parents, his grandparents, and each one of us who have the courage to follow Jesus – as we all recommit to the faithful practice of redeeming love.

And, speaking of David Henry, I promised I’d paste in the occasional gratuitous photograph. However, this one is not gratuitous. This photograph fits the conviction Rebekah and I hold that bringing such beings of light and life into this world is a deliberate act of love and redemption.

David Henry - agent of God's great love...

I believe. I really do. I believe that God is greater than any dark cloud that comes along. I believe that my friend John is resting in the open arms of a God who loves him so much that God sent his own son to open the door for redemption. I believe that each new day holds the promise of reconciliation for every sentient being. I believe that my new grandson has a pivotal role to play in God’s great plan of love.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” – John 14:27

Peace – and I mean that – DEREK

10 comments

  1. I am a widow of only 6 weeks, and find the weekends very hard. I don’t always read your missives, but just as I was feeling the tears well up on this Friday afternoon, I saw the by-line “Struggle is temporary– Love is eternal,” as if God were speaking to my pain straight through my computer. I know that God answers prayers and loves us through such small miracles, through each other, each and every day. Thank you for being an instrument of His Peace.

    • Anne – Good to hear from you.
      I’m so sorry for your loss. But I truly do believe that love is the final word and that – even when things are difficult (especially) – grace abounds.
      Thanks for your kind word about my writing. I’m enjoying the opportunity to share my discipleship stories via this blog, and humbled that so many people are walking along with me.

      Peace and God’s rich blessings – DEREK

  2. I look forward to meeting John when it is time for me to. Join my Heavenly Father. He sounds like a man who I would have been blessed to know! I suspect that he is also anxious for Rebekah to get her hands on David! It is such a blessing when we can see God’s work so clearly! It is obvious that David was sent at the exact moment God knew he was needed! Carson joined our family less than 2 months after Papa died. He joined our family days before my grandmother flew to my house to spend her first Christmas without Papa. Carson was also our reminder of God’s Grace.

  3. I really appreciate your sharing. I have my own journeys. What I believe is so amazing is that, if pain is temporary and love is eternal, how amazing it is when we take this experience and in a small way (noncomparable to Jesus) try to make it help others. So thank you. I am sure your vulnerability has brought you joy and peace (in Christ) but also suffering (in the world). I never understood how much trying to help others, as a human being when even Christ suffered, could be so painful. But thank you that when I “googled” this, there was something that did not make me feel alone. You can “google” me and see that the things I do are not for myself – but I really have so much to learn about the love of Christ because I just want to go home.

    Cynthia Calder Kolstad

    • Thanks, Cynthia. And thanks for taking me back to re-read that post. Later, when brother died in March (this year), I understood the truth of what I’m saying even more profoundly (read my March 13 post, then March 26).
      Peace to your on your journey.
      Prayers from Florida – DEREK

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